A Woman’s Guide to Giving Oral Sex – Part 2, “Male Parts Explained”

It’s Father’s Day, so what a day to post something like this!!! Being a father, well, it’s MY day, dammit. How about a blow job?

Anyway, back to the important stuff. Thursday’s post explored the man’s mind, what pleases it, and how it connects to his cock. Remember the main lessons from the post:

1. Men are visual creatures and love the mental photography of getting head. Anything you do should first be geared toward this fact.
2. Like what you’re doing. It turns us on and makes us want to do something dirty to you.
3. Don’t make us feel like we should go to sleep. That isn’t cool…especially when lips are attached to our cocks.

Men are visual creatures. Say that 5 times in a row and commit it to memory. After that’s done, find your significant other and read the rest of this post

How you give a good blow job actually depends on your man – more precisely, on his cock: its length, its girth, and whether he’s circumcised or not – but the basic principles are the same. I will approach each of the principles from different perspectives to address the greatest audience, but I’m sure I’ll miss someone. If you have a direct question, contact me directly in the comments and I’ll answer it in the best way I can.

Alright, there are 5 basic areas where you need to concentrate your attention:

1. The penis head
2. The shaft
3. The balls and perineum
4. The ass and asshole
5. The hips

In this part, we’re going to talk about the parts of the cock and tactics you should use to maximize the stimulation of those parts. In the next part, we’ll talk about giving the actual blow job and some “accessories” you might use to assist you where you come up short. Anyway, let’s start with #1 and work down, shall we?

The penis head can be both a blessing a curse to the man. Personally, I’m circumcised. So, the head of my penis is going to feel very different during a blow job than another man’s penis – which is uncircumcised – will during the same. It basically comes down to how sensitive the head is. For instance, my cock spends the entire day in either boxer shorts or boxer briefs, often heading over to the gym during my lunch break or sitting at home blogging. Either way, any daily movements I make are done with my penis head moving back and forth with the head rubbing against the underwear at a semi-constant rate. This has a callousing effect, which makes it less sensitive and, thus, a less-attractive target during oral sex. In all honesty, spending minutes sucking on and licking the head of my cock does little to excite me unless the attitude comes with it, which means that my imagination is doing more for me than your mouth is at the time you are attached to it. However, this is just me, and I’m circumcised. Now, I would expect that, if you have a significant other that is not circumcised, this is not totally the case. If my penis head spent a significant amount of time hidden in foreskin, the callousing effect would not be there, making my penis head more sensitive. This could be good…or bad. The reason I say that it could be bad is that the part of my penis head that is sensitive is so in a way that nipples are sensitive when you aren’t horny – it feels like someone attached a jumper cable to the outer 1/4 of your little toe. Not comfy. So, it’s possible that your uncircumcised significant other could like your playing with the head of this cock…or not. If you’re going to do it, play gently, using lots of tongue and don’t suck too hard. This should be the location of gentle foreplay before the game begins. But, as I said, it can be a very sensitive area. As far as the head goes, ASK. Please, for your sake and his. Playing with this part of the cock the right way…or the wrong way…and set the tone for the rest of the blow job.

On to the shaft. The cock shaft is the bread & butter of the American blow job (and probably that of other countries, as well). It is this part of my cock, at least, where the money is made. Now, what happens to this part of the cock depends greatly on the size of your significant other. I can speak from the perspective of the average, Euro-American male because my cock weighs in somewhere near the average male at about 6″ in erect length. Not sure on the girth, but I think I’m OK there, as well. All told, I’m probably an average guy. So, as luck would have it, most of my cock will fit rather nicely into the mouth of the average female, and the enterprising young lady that can deep throat one will offer me the privilege of putting my entire penis inside her mouth. This isn’t necessary for a good…or even great…blow job, but those that can do it have a leg up on the rest. The reason is this: the nerve endings that provide the catalyst for orgasm are, in my estimation, about 70% located along the shaft of the cock. This is where you should spend your time. When you put your man’s cock in your mouth during oral sex, this is where your tongue rests. The more surface area you can touch with your tongue, the better. Since your tongue extends well into your throat, the best way to do this is to deep-throat his cock, giving him maximum contact with your tongue. So, during your blow job, you need to make doubly sure that, regardless of what else you do, you take care of #1 – in this case, the bottom side of his cock shaft. This is where you will get the most kudos, as this is where most of the sensitive (in the good way) nerves are on his cock. If you can’t deep throat (damn), that’s OK. You’ll just have to make up for it in other ways (that’s in Part 3). So, deep throat if you can. If you can’t, you’ll just have to work extra hard on the part that you can put into your mouth and do what you can with the rest. If you’re halfway talented or even a bit creative, the inability to deep-throat your partner will not be an impediment to your sex life. I promise. Regardless of all of this, the point is that the bottom of your man’s shaft is the most important part of his cock if you’re performing oral sex. This fact should penetrate deep into your cranium and be one you recite in a drunken stupor at a staff party at Christmas. When you’re blowing your hot co-worker at the end of the party after 10 Tom & Jerrys, let that be the only coherent thought in your head. OK?

Now, onto #3: the balls and perineum. These are one area where my wife actually opened my eyes a bit, though I’d been partially introduced back in college. A man’s balls, in and of themselves, are not terribly linked to anything sexual outside of purely reproductive acts. However, the sack that holds them – the scrotum – is made of soft, supple, and sensitive skin that is more than happy to accept gentle, yet not-so-gentle tugs and strokes from your hands during the blow job. This brings me to an epiphany that I will call Big Mac’s First Rule:

The more things you touch during oral sex, the better.

If your mouth is on my cock with tongue, slathered up against the bottom of the shaft, and you have your hand slowly but deliberately stroking and tugging on my sack, I’m going to get a little more out of it that if you had only your mouth on my cock. Follow me? I’ve had a blow job in my life where the actual sucking part of it was not all that great – I don’t think she got more than halfway down my shaft. However, she was all over my sack with both hands like it was her job. Not kidding. Touching my sack and tugging on it lightly but deliberately made up for her lack of talent in the area of the penis itself. She compensated well. So, touching, caressing, stroking, and tugging on the scrotum with a light but deliberate motion will make most men enjoy the blow job even more. I’ll go into exactly how to do this when we get to action in Part 3. For now, you need to know what feels good and where to spend your time. Remember: the more stuff you touch, the better.

That brings me to the perineum, which I added as part of the balls for the reason of proximity. The perineum – also called the “taint” (“it ‘taint yer balls and it ‘taint yer ass) by many college guys (and others that are still, mentally, in college) – is a fancy name for the area between your balls and your asshole. However, if you put your fingers under there to see what it really is, you’ll find that it’s just an extension of your man’s penis. We would call it part of the prostate. Regardless of what you call it, however, that part of a man is, as I said, part of the penis. I don’t care that it’s near my asshole. If you can feel it during a blow job, you’ll notice that it’s erect, just like the rest of my cock. Touch it and hear me laugh a bit, as I know you’ve just hit a small jackpot. If you slowly but deliberately stroke that part, expect your job to get a little bit easier. If you can mix this in with stroking my balls and deep-throating, you just became my new best friend with benefits. However, very few women will be able to pull that off (it takes a lot of coordination), so any combination is good. My point here is that the cock doesn’t end at the pubic bone – it ends well inside of us, inside and above the asshole, which brings me to Point #4…

The ass and asshole. Many girls don’t want to go anywhere near this one…nor do many guys. And, to be honest, I really haven’t gone there, either. Men don’t want to feel like they’re gay and girls think that guys poop more heinous stuff than they do, so this area gets little play. However, if anyone’s ever seen the movie “Road Trip” or has had to leave a sperm sample and read the form that asks “how did you provide your sample: masturbation or prostate massage?”, you know what I’m talking about. As I said in the prior paragraph, a man’s cock essentially goes from the head, down the shaft, under and past the balls, on to the asshole, then makes a turn above the asshole and into wherever the hell it goes. All told, what you see is maybe 1/3 of the entire organ. So, if you can do something to stimulate an area that isn’t readily apparent to you, you’ll make the blow job even better. A man’s prostate is very sensitive and that is probably the reason that he can achieve orgasm with anal stimulation (and probably the reason why gay man enjoy it). However, the physical stimulation should be good for heterosexual men, as well…if they can get past the gay thing. I would think that a woman stimulating your asshole would mean you aren’t gay, but whatever. I get it. It’s a guy thing. For a man to get off on this area, however, takes a leap of faith on the woman’s and man’s part: she has to stick something slightly up her man’s ass. We’re not talking 4″ up his ass. We’re talking maybe an inch or two…and we’re probably not talking a dildo, either. That’s where the gay thing comes in. If fingers aren’t kosher, try anal beads or something. Either way, the pressure against and stroking of the prostate will accelerate orgasm and make life easier on you. I promise.

The last point is about the hips. The hips, in and of themselves, are not sexual in terms of nerves and feeling. However, if you get yourself into a position and start giving us a blow job, using our hips as your grip and leverage point makes it hot. I certainly like it. It takes me back to the attitude thing. It shows me that you know what you’re doing, you’re in charge, and that you’re taking care to get it right. Hold on to my hips (even if only with one hand), get the rhythm going, and go to town. Simple as that. It’s just an attitude thing for me.

Anyway, that’s about it for tonight. More on the next part – Part 3 – that will go over tactics of an actual blow job, along with an example. Perhaps I’ll even have my wife perform as part of the experiment. Cheer her on

Good night, everyone…